Feelings...4

A friend reading my posts have commented that, perhaps, the common man has spoiled everything by saying "I love you"..... the lady in question was also a "common woman", and she was attracted by his voice, his intellect, et al... and the love that could have grown slowly, was killed at roots when he uttered those magical 3 words... possible?? But, had he not said those words at all, do you think his lady-love would have responded the way she did?

"Love" is mystifying, isnt it? Sometimes one feels it is palpably there in the air, and at other times, it is just not ... but, what is it, in reality? Is it some strong bond connecting two individuals, or is it some kind of compassion one feels for the other, or is it something that needs to be just felt and be happy about and not being able to express? What is it, my learned friends?

The common man's dilemma supposedly seems simple enough... he is madly in love with this lady and dreams of her in his 24-hour routine.. she does not leave his mind, not even for a second... it seems some kind of obsession thats eating into him day and night... there's some kind of a madness woven around the whole thing.... he knows that he hasn't been, and will never be able to, in such deep love for any woman in his life...

The question he asks himself often... (and its my question to you, too, dear reader) Is this love, or possessiveness? or the sheer fright of losing someone / something very close and dear to his heart?

Does rationality play any role while dealing with "feelings"? For example, while he rationalises that even though he may love her, it is not necessary that she will also love her equally fanatically.. also, she has her life, her thought process is different, and it is quite possible that she may have come across someone who is far more appealing to her (for whatever reasons)..... if this is what he rationalises, why cant he accept the same at the "feelings" level????  While we human beings tend to become very objective and rational while we are distanced from the problem (when it is not "our" problem, that is.. it is someone else's problem), the same 'we' get extremely personal and emotional when the issue affects our lives?

Does "mind" rule over the "heart", or vice versa? What is more important, mind or heart? Now, this is not the Hegelian/Marxian option of mind over matter, its mind vs heart, rationality vs emotions.....

I leave you here, my dear reader, with this question....

"The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind..
The answer is blowing in the wind"... (Bob Dylan)