“I can never understand women,” our common man finally came to the conclusion… “why do they have to say something, while they mean something diametrically opposite?” Ok, may not be exactly opposite (for all those friends of mine, with extremely logical minds and exceptional intellect) , but lets then call it ‘different” for the sake of such people..
For example, when a woman says. “I’m shy,” or, “I don’t know, you are embarrassing me”.. is she meaning what she is saying, literally? Or there is something hidden and unsaid that one needs to decipher – like : "I cant say that I love you because I am too stubborn, but the fact is that I want you to take me in your arms and make me feel wanted and needed, and shower me with all your love, because I too, want you"… but Is it perhaps because such women actually find it difficult to say things that concern the heart? Is it because they have grown up like boys, preferring ball game over barbies? Is it because they have been always ‘told’ to take responsibilities, be a ‘support’? Is it too ‘girlish’ for them to utter those 3 magic words, that they are too strong for such softies?? Or, is it that they are afraid to make commitments, as experience have taught them that commitments are meant to be broken, causing extreme pain..
Again on the other hand, it can also be so that the lady actually means what she is saying – that she is indeed shy and feeling embarrassed (since no one has ever told her the way this man is saying now) but, how does our man differentiate between the apparent and the sublime?
There is this other person who would not open her mind and say anything, and all the while leave the man guessing… perhaps she does this because, in her life, the man is of least significance.. she has more important and urgent matters to focus at, matters concerning her life, her career, her likes and dislikes, her child’s future, so on and so forth… she plays multiple roles, a single parent bringing up a girl child, she herself acting as a single child of her widow mother, the sole bread earner, young enough to attract attention of lewd men around, in an alien land, daily struggle for existence...where does our common man fit into this maze? He doesn’t, because he is entangled in his own myriad world, from where there is no escape for him, however hard he yearns to break free.. yet his heart reaches out to her, and breaks into pieces when there is no response…
Human behavior is intense and difficult to understand… the mind is a bundle of emotions and rationality, and which one takes precedence over the other at what point of time, is anyone’s guess.. actually, when the heart yearns, the head shrieks in protest, getting into a conflict situation…and people like our poor common man gets confused… he doesn’t understand whether to approach, or stay away ..
Ladies, do you understand what difficulties you are creating for our man? As it is, he is a confused Libran, and such situations make him go really haywire… his balance goes oscillating.. have mercy on the poor soul, if you can !!
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